I would suggest forgetting helping with the baby unless you have a colicky one. Babies are very little work, just exhausting. If you breast feed, you can literally feel the energy seeping out of you those first few weeks while feeding the baby. It is the other stuff that needs to happen to keep your house running that is so tough those first weeks. Food, laundry and cleaning would be tops on my list of things I would ask help for if I were a mom of a newborn again.